My sister gave every important child a gift bag at the cousins’ birthday party, then handed my daughter one with a note that said, “Try harder next year.” We didn’t argue, didn’t cry in front of anyone, and simply left. But by the next morning, my sister was screaming at her front door.
At my nephew Ethan’s eighth birthday party in Raleigh, North Carolina, my sister Marissa handed out gift bags like she…